You can be happy alone? - Women Tips

Most of the emails I receive are from women who can not overcome the end of a relationship and they see the fact of being alone like a losing battle.

It's part of our culture women only be successful if you have a partner, children, etc., no matter if it is happy alone, has college graduate, a good job, a great family and super friends, none of this has value if it does not have someone on your side.

In children's drawings, films and novels, everything ends in marriage, children and the famous "lived happily ever after." To Vinicius de Moraes in his music Wave says that "it is impossible to be happy alone." And who ever heard phrases like: "I'm looking for the cover of my pot" or "half of my orange".

We created the false idea that we are incomplete beings and so we will spend a lifetime trying to find this other half. As end of relationship (Lost) and came to be "incomplete", as if being alone was a deficiency that causes shame and so it is common to avoid the family celebrations afraid "that" Aunt "gossip" ask the boyfriend ashamed of friends, neighbors and even the dog to do that little face that you are sorry for you . We hide, blame and suffer us suffer a lot.

Often the pain is not the person we lost, but by loneliness which caused. The point is that if we do not have the happiness alone we can not accompanied, for the fear of loneliness It is so great that suffocate a relationship that could work (jealous) or in the worst cases accept any kind of relationship (violence).

I'm not saying that we should be alone, but our happiness can not depend on each other, so we need to have emotional independence that comes up with a better self-esteem. Got an afternoon off work? Why not take advantage of the empty cinema or sit in a cafe to enjoy life rather than go home because it has no company.

If you are alone by choice or chance of fate enjoy this moment to get to know and enjoy and love, because no one will take better care of you than yourself.

Be happy!